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Keep your Opinions in Check Keep your Opinions in Check While the prospect of speaking to someone you find unabashedly attractive might make you giddy and chatty, do your best not to alienate your subjects by making sweeping generalizations. Don't get ahead of yourself and start professing your love of lawn bowling, or immediately confess your extreme love of the color orange. If your intention is to engage someone in conversation, the safest bet is to avoid offending them within the first five minutes. If you're lucky, you'll find someone who likes to gab as much as you do. Nothing feels better than a fantastic conversation where both parties are equally involved and interested. If you can, keep the profanity to yourself until you can gage your subject's comfort level. Interlacing every other word with the F-word might start to turn someone's stomach, even if you're only talking about what a spectacular day it is. Above all, wait until the relationship has at least progressed beyond preliminary chatting before you confess you think the moon landing was all a big hoax. Watch for Signals from your Friends If you are able to, take the time to observe the facial expressions of your partner in crime (i.e. the friends you are with). If your best friend looks to be enduring a great deal of pain and is making wild hand gestures, it's likely your public speaking skills are alienating your subjects. In this case, consider toning it down a tad. Should your friend join in the conversation and even interject complimentary things about you, it's likely you're having more success. Pay Attention To Her Reaction While this may seem like common sense, it is surprising how many guys seem to miss or simply ignore that look of panic on a girl's face when she feels chained to a conversation. If her eyes start to wander, she yawns or looks panicked, it might be the time to take a hint. If her friends only speak to each other, make excuses about the time, or even start to leave, you'll know it's really time to surrender - it wasn't meant to be anyway, right? Allow for a Two-Way Conversation If anything, taking a deep breath here and there might allow your subject to interject her own points, paving the way for a more worthwhile and enjoyable conversation. I'd rather talk with someone, than be talked at like an inanimate object. There's always the risk your face will morph into her father's, and your chat will come to resemble a lecture she received at the age of ten about eating her vegetables. Nobody wants that. Know When to Walk Away, Slugger If your conversation subject argues with you, gives you one-word answers, or simply doesn't reply at all, accept that your motor-mouth has taken over and allow her a peaceful getaway. Know that it's more attractive to accept defeat gracefully, than to insult your subject under your breath as she walks away. ____________________________________________ |
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